As a relationship coach with over 15 years of experience counseling couples, I have seen firsthand how treating your husband like a king can transform a marriage.
In my early days of marriage, I’ll admit that I didn’t always make my husband feel cherished. We sometimes took each other for granted. But overtime, I learned the power of uplifting your spouse. When you elevate your husband and make him feel respected, appreciated and cared for, it brings out the best in him as a man and a partner. The entire dynamic of your relationship shifts for the better.
If you want to be the wind beneath your husband’s wings, this guide will teach you exactly how to treat him like royalty. I have distilled the wisdom from my clinical experience and from reputable sources into actionable tips.
Consider this your blueprint for helping your husband unlock his highest masculine potential while feeling deeply loved and valued. When you embrace your role as his “queen,” you allow him to fully embrace his role as your king. It’s a beautiful cycle that leads to greater intimacy, passion and partnership.
Understanding What Your Husband Wants and Expects
The first step in treating your man like a king is understanding his core desires and expectations. As the saying goes, happy wife, happy life. Well, the reverse is also true – when your husband feels happy and satisfied, your whole marriage reaps the rewards.
So what exactly does your husband want and expect from you? Every man is unique, but some common themes emerge:
Respect – Fundamentally, men crave respect from their wives. They want to feel admired for their character, abilities and provision.
Appreciation – Along with respect, men desperately want their efforts and contributions to be noticed and appreciated. Something as small as a “thank you” for taking out the trash can make your husband beam with pride.
Intimacy – Whether emotional or physical intimacy, your man wants to feel connected to you. Intimacy gives him a sense of being valued and loved by his life partner.
Support – When launching a new business venture or following a passion, your husband wants his wife in his corner cheering him on. Having your full support gives him confidence.
Peace – Perhaps above all, your husband longs for peace, comfort and stability with you. He sees the home you’ve created together as a sanctuary from the stresses of work and society.
Now that you understand his deep-rooted wants and needs, you can start catering your actions accordingly.
20 Ways to Make Your Husband Feel Like a King
Treating your husband like royalty isn’t about lavishing him with grand gestures. It’s often the simple, consistent actions that communicate love and devotion. Here are my top 20 tactics for making your man feel appreciated and adored:
1. Compliment him often
Freely voice what you admire and appreciate about your husband. Compliment his appearance, strengths, talents and efforts. Your praise means more coming from you than anyone else.
2. Show affection often
Through both words and physical touch, shower your husband with genuine affection. Surprise hugs, tender kisses and loving intimacy will make your man melt.
3. Respect his interests and opinions
Don’t belittle or badmouth the things your husband cares about, even if you don’t personally share his interests. And seek out his perspective on important matters.
4. Prioritize quality time together
Consistently set aside couple time without distractions from kids, work or phones. Engaged, focused time together is pivotal for intimacy.
5. Fulfill his desires (within reason)
Go out of your way to thoughtfully please your husband by fulfilling his little desires here and there. Whether it’s his favorite meal or watching sports together, these gestures show you care.
6. Entrust him with leadership
Allow your husband to take the reins and steer the ship in your family. Support his decision-making power and trust in his capabilities as a leader.
7. Appreciate his provision
Even if you also work, acknowledge your husband’s drive to financially provide for you and the sacrifices he makes. Recognizing his contribution is hugely important.
8. Build him up
Counterbalance life’s harsh criticism by affirmed your husband’s strengths and encouraging him to overcome his weaknesses. Your faith in him helps him achieve more.
9. Defend him to others
Don’t throw your husband under the bus to family, friends or PUBLICLY. EVEN IF HE IS IN THE wrong, gently address issues privately with him rather than demeaning him to others.
10. Smooth out conflict
Disagreements are inevitable. But you honor your husband by keeping conflicts focused on resolution, not escalation. Lead with empathy, active listening and compromise.
11. Respect his personal time
While togetherness is important, so is personal space. Allow your husband outlets to decompress through solo hobbies, guy time or simply zoning out at home.
12. Care for him when sick
When your husband is ill, transform into nurture mode – make him soup, bring medicine, whatever he needs. Your tender loving care helps him heal.
13. Initiate intimacy
Sometimes be the one to kickstart lovemaking. Taking that burden off your husband’s shoulders makes him feel desired and sexy. Ravish him!
14. Express gratitude
Let your husband know you notice and appreciate everything he contributes – working long hours, home repairs, helping with kids, etc. Gratitude is key.
15. Seek to understand him
Instead of criticizing differences, strive to actually understand your husband’s unique personality, communication style, emotional wiring, etc. You may gain insight about how to better support him.
16. Accommodate his preferences
Within reason, accommodate little things your husband is particular about to make home feel like his castle. Whether a certain spot on the couch, no shoes inside or the thermostat temp.
17. Trust and believe in him
Through ups and downs, communicate unwavering faith in your husband. The power of your steadfast trust can inspire him through storms.
18. Allow him to provide
Welcome your husband’s innate desire to serve and provide for his family. Let him pick up the check at dinner. Allow him to make repairs around the house. Say yes when he brings your flowers or gifts.
19. Honor him publicly
Brag about your amazing husband to family and friends. Publicly acknowledging why you admire him makes him walk a little taller.
20. Pray for him daily
Stand in the gap spiritually for your husband through daily prayer. Ask God to equip him with strength, wisdom and favor. Your prayers shield him.
Bringing these tips to life on a daily basis seems effortless once you get into the rhythm of it. When you commit to uplifting your spouse, both of you win big.
Suddenly, resistance and tension melt away. Petty grievances fade. In their place blooms vibrant passion, laughter and rich companionship.
So empower your husband by treating him like the king he was created to be. Watch in awe as he steps into his highest masculine potential – all because you believed in him. Ultimately, the more you honor your husband, the more he will honor you. It’s a beautiful reciprocal dance.
Now go make that man feel cherished from head to toe! He and your marriage deserve it.
